You’ve heard the statistics: over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Sobering odds for anyone considering walking down the aisle these days except for the fact that they aren’t at all accurate.
That’s right. For those of you concerned about the state of marriage in the U.S. and elsewhere, you’ll be encouraged to know that more couples who tie the knot are staying together than ever before. And while many originally thought divorce was on the rise, it has actually been decreasing steady over the past three decades.
The Truth About the Divorce Rate
HufPost Live recently did a segment explaining the reason for this decline.
Bringing together a panel that included a psychologist, professor, author and divorce lawyer, they discussed the current state of today’s marriage and why more of them seem to be lasting than ever before.
So what are the reasons for the success of today’s marriage?
Young people are waiting longer to tie the knot than their parents did, with the average age for women being 27 and for men 29. They are fully vetting their partners now, and often co-habitate for years beforehand.
But some reasons for the decline of divorce are a little less encouraging.
As divorce lawyer, Ben Stevens explained, the economy also plays a huge role. He doesn’t believe marriages are any happier than they were before, but that many couples just don’t have the capital to go through with divorce, especial those of lower income. Some just separate without getting a divorce, some wait for the value of their home to increase and still others agree to keep living together but maintain separate lives.
Also, fewer couples are actually getting married these days. Many co-habitate and have children without ever walking down the aisle. As much as 40% of kids born today have unmarried parents. When these couples split, there’s no divorce involved.
So family instability is actually on the rise with fewer and fewer children growing up in homes with both their parents.
So how can we spare ourselves a nasty breakup?
As author Marina Sbrochi explained, take care of your own baggage first. Make mental health a priority and enter into a full on committed relationship only after you’ve addressed your issues. Acknowledge and understand what you need from your potential partner. Only then will your relationship have a chance of surviving over time.