Can Rebound Relationships Last?

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So not too long ago you experienced an awful break-up- the worst in fact. It was heartbreaking and you thought you would never recover at first. But, gratefully, you’ve moved on. You’ve met someone you’re just crazy about that makes your old relationship a distant memory. You just couldn’t be happier.

Except…

All your friends and family keep telling you to slow down, that he’s not the “one”. He’s nothing more than your “rebound”.

And so you start to feel conflicted. He’s wonderful in so many ways, but maybe all the naysayers are right. You begin to doubt yourself and your feelings. You ask yourself the question: “Can rebound relationships last?”

The good news is that all those well-meaning people may be wrong. Your new flame could be the right person for you after all.

Is it Really a Rebound?

Most people define a rebound as the first romantic relationship after a painful break-up with a long-term partner. Usually this new relationship begins before the person has had sufficient amount of time to heal from the separation and the new relationship serves as a diversion from the previous one.

Only you know how much time you need by yourself to get over past hurts. You may need less than some or more than others. If you feel that you’ve had enough time to heal, than maybe this new relationship could survive after all.

Can Rebound Relationships Last?

Studies indicate that rebound relationships do have the potential to last and can be far more healthy than most people think.

In fact, this research proves that individuals who embarked on new relationships soon after a break-up, got over their ex faster than those who stayed alone. They also showed increased self-esteem and less anxiety over becoming attached than those who remained single longer.

In other words, if you want to get over your break-up faster, it doesn’t hurt to find someone else to love. In fact, it can actually help.

But it gets even better…

These studies also indicated that those individuals who had less time between relationships demonstrated higher trust and comfort with intimacy. They also showed more respect for their new partner and more emotional security with themselves and their new relationship.

Of course, on the flip side, some people who did dive into new relationships rather quickly did so for all the wrong reasons, like revenge. Those individuals often wound up comparing their new partner to their old- never a good thing.

But on the whole, research shows that those with the capacity to move on faster seemed better adjusted and just plain happier people in the end.

So can rebound relationships last? They sure can. You just need to ask yourself what’s motivating you to be in the one you’re in.

 

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