How to Overcome a Wedding Disaster

Was your wedding a disaster? Did you find yourself wishing things were different, sobbing over the outcome, and overwhelmed by all the things that went wrong? A wedding day is supposed to be a glorious part of your life, but for many unfortunate brides it becomes one of the most disappointing days of their lives. It can be really tough to overcome that.

Source: Fun Channel

Source: Fun Channel

How can you begin to work past the wedding disaster?

First, keep it all in perspective. Rain on your wedding day is not a serious tragedy — it’s just something that didn’t go as planned. The caterers didn’t arrive on time? That’s an inconvenience, but it’s not a cause to throw away the memory of the whole day. Be careful not to place too much weight on the things that went wrong, and instead, focus on the things that went well.

If you have trouble doing that, it’s understandable. Serious problems can mean that you need more than a good perspective. A good example is the bride whose divorced parents began arguing — loudly — during the ceremony. In the end, the ceremony was stopped and her parents were escorted out while screaming at each other! Needless to say, her wedding felt ruined. She deserves a heartfelt apology from both parties, and she should ask for it. That might be the only way she can move past that horrible scene.

Just like this example, do what you need to do to move past the issue and let it go. Your husband flirted too much with the maid of honor? Your bridesmaids showed up in the wrong dresses? Your brother gave a toast that embarrassed everyone in the room? Decide what it will take to move past it and then do that. You might just need an apology, or you might need to apologize to someone. You might need an explanation. You might need to demand your money back. Whatever it takes to get over it, that’s what you need to do.

Remember that a wedding day does not make a marriage. It is the public display of a very personal commitment. That personal commitment is still there, no matter how that wedding day went. Yes, it matters — but what matters more is the marriage that you are now in. Make a commitment to remember that when you get down about the disastrous wedding.

And finally, consider doing it over again. If your wedding was a true disaster, consider having a new one — entirely on your terms this time. It might not be the huge wedding you had intended in the beginning, but a simple renewing of vows in a lovely place, just you and your partner, can be enough to overcome the disappointment of your disastrous wedding day.

 

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